Tuesday, September 13, 2005

For Envizable (And All You Other Confused Brothers ;)

So, I was at Envizable's site and I saw his post about nice guys finishing last. Now, I have met many a man who believed this "fact" about women. And, it's completely and totally not true. So, in order to demystify you boys, I am about to give away the biggest secret of all time. Something that women have known for years, but, for whatever reason, you guys haven't figured out yet.

Nice guys do not finish last.

But, confident men always win.

Yes, the key here isn't that the guy is a jerk. It's that he's confident. He's probably more confident than the nice guy who stammers and stutters his way through a conversation with some chick. And, therein lies the difference.

Nobody wants to be with someone who doubts themselves constantly. This is especially true for women. They want someone who can stand on their own two feet and stand up for their girl at the same time. No, they don't want a mean person, but they do want a man who is sure of himself. Now, while it's true that some women mistake jerkiness for confidence, what most women want is a nice guy who believes in himself.

So, you don't believe me? Well, I refer you to two movies to prove my point:

1. The Man in the Iron Mask

Who was cuter ladies? Bad Leo or Good Leo? Both parts were played by the Super Fine Mr. Leonardo DiCaprio. But, why did all of the women reading this just answer my question with "Bad Leo?" It's not because Leo was bad, I assure you. It's because Bad Leo wasn't no punk! He knew what he wanted. He went after it. His high level of confidence was HOT!

Really, really, really hot!!


Okay, getting back to my point. I would never want to have a long-term relationship with Bad Leo from that movie. I don't confuse jerkiness with confidence. But, I do recognize that the confidence that character possessed was really, really, really hot.

2. Sugar and Spice

This is a little known dark comedy which proves my point that nice, confident guys are very sexy. In this movie, the hot boy in question plays an 18 year old boy who gets his girlfriend pregnant. He totally steps up to support his girlfriend and their new baby. When his co-workers ask him if he's going to go out and pick up other girls, he states "Guys, I can't do that. I'm gonna be a Dad now!"


Again, confident. Which equals sexy. Nice, which is also sexy in my book. But, confident in his niceness. Which equals, what? Say it with me...


So, do you guys see what I'm saying here? Women do actually like nice. But, you have to be sure of yourself. Not a jerk. Just know that you actually like yourself the way you are. And, that you're willing to share that with someone else. Be proud (not arrogant!) of who you are. I guarantee the nice, confident boy has no problems picking up girls.

Okay, so I hope that helped all you boys out. Also, if you're still having problems picking up girls, it might help if you were rich. Go win the lottery or something. I've been told that rich boys don't have trouble picking up girls. ;)

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Blogger Caro said...

oh so true.

same goes fro girls though.

guys tend to gravitate towards confident girls and other less confident girls feel threatened by these confident ones and immdeiately label as bitches.

not to say that bitchiness does not run rampant among the confident, but confidence does not necessarily equal bitch or arrogant....though they do tend to commonly appear all at once in the same person.


yay for mentioning Sugar & Spice

i wish you could be here to smack me at times like last night when i was crying my eyes out because i felt defeated in the worst way.

first home trojan game this weekend.

10:22 PM  
Blogger ByeBye said...

wow... wow... speechless. lol I started a post based upon your title along lol but heyyy after reading the subject, I totally completley understandably agree.

I guess I'm the one who falls under the confident (and ummm clearing my throat bank lol j/k)... so thats the difference huh between me and Teddy. You know I'm glad you put it out like that cause I was getting a bit disappointed in my sistas if it was all about the looks and the bank.

Now I can luv ya even more.

but for the sistas lacking confidence even when you got the man that you think everyone else wants... step up and wear that b*tch label well. No offense but men usually like those with confidence instead of those who cries all those endless tears.

I hope I didn't put my foot in my mouth, lately I've been living in the doghouse woof woof. Thats ok cause I got my own now.

Much luv to you Reese, much much luv to ya!!!

8:48 AM  
Blogger Karla said...

I am going to ditto what Caro.

Now hold all the old rotten tomatoes but ummm i don't find Leo all that hot. You are right though Bad Leo was SEXY but it was because he was confident.

10:15 AM  
Blogger Reese The Law Girl said...

Caro, I agree. And you are a CONFIDENT woman! Do not feel defeated! Despite everything, you're still the She-Ra in this situation.

Envizable: Thanx for the luv! :)

It's not always about the looks and the bank. But, you know, looks and bank don't hurt, you know what I'm saying? I'd put up with a whole lot to be with Orlando Bloom.

Or Brad Pitt.

Or Shemar Moore.

Or Micheal Ealy.

But, only for those guys.

And, also Morris Chestnut, Hugh Jackman, Charles Divens, and Orlando Bloom.

Oh, wait, I already said Orlando.

Well, it's worth repeating. ;)

Karla: As long as you recognize the hotness of Bad Leo, you have not crossed the boundaries of blasphemey on this blog.

But, you're so close. :p~~~

10:49 AM  
Blogger Jessica R. said...

AMEN!! You said it - I always thought (so did everyone around me) that I was too into guys looks. But my serious relationships have been with the not so hot guys - and my current situation - he's cute don't get me wrong but he's not ARod - but he's a GREAT GREAT NICE guy...and yes he is very confident!!!

12:39 PM  
Blogger ~^^~Elsie~^^~ said...

You said it chica! I say the same thing; I want confidence, not cockiness - confidence - there is a difference. Gosh, I'm talking to a guy right now who is SO confident, that he even trips myself out! Yes, I want a guy who can stand BESIDE (think Jodee Messina) me, on his own two feet! Way to go chica - love ur blog, btw!

2:59 PM  
Blogger KOM said...

Hmm, you had me until the examples based on movies! I saw an ad for a Rob Schneider movie that would lead me to believe that I don't even have to be confident - just made out of various animal parts.

And Caro, there are also the guys (and this goes for some women as well) that specifically look for girls who are particularly unsure of themselves. They are easier to boss around and manipulate. These are the guys that you need to look out for, moreso than jerks (though they are not mutually exclusive).

3:46 PM  
Blogger Karla said...

"Karla: As long as you recognize the hotness of Bad Leo, you have not crossed the boundaries of blasphemey on this blog.

But, you're so close. :p"

Oh damn i better watch myself before i cross the boundaries of blashphemey on this blog. Thanks for letting me know Reese that i was close. :)

4:22 PM  
Blogger NameLiar said...

Reese is totally right. Confidence is diffently the key. You set them straight girl.

5:11 PM  
Blogger Reese The Law Girl said...

Oh, look at Karla! She's bringing the sarcasm now!

I've made another convert! ;)

Kom: The movies were scientific evidence of my theory, man! Especially the Leo movie. I use them as examples because we have seen the movies and can relate to how attracted we were to certain characters.

Don't doubt the science man. ;)

Thanx, Jessica, Elsie, and Nameliar. I think the proof is in all of the comments. All the ladies agree- confident men are hotness. ;)

8:41 PM  
Blogger "Lisa" said...

I thought we discussed the fact that you weren't going to reveal these female secrets to men. Of course if it means there will be better guys out there then I am all for it.

6:04 AM  
Blogger Reese The Law Girl said...

I got sick of guys bashing us girls. Like all we want are hot, rich guys who beat us up. I had to set the record straight.

I know it was a secret, but the benefit outweighs the cost of exposing our weakness. ;)

10:49 AM  
Blogger Jerk Of All Trades 2.0 said...

Damn, you people sure like to throw the word "jerk" around!!

You know, it IS possible to be confident AND a jerk!


I don't WANNA change my name, but maybe I should.

7:27 PM  
Blogger chase said...

yes, there is something about a confident man, even the ones you love to hate cause they're so damn COCKY. My longest relationships have been with the confident/cocky ones, and they were not the best looking ones I dated, good looking guys tend to lean on that, but it was the cats who developed character despite...that got to me. My bf now, he's handsome, but not acorss the board if you know what I mean, I dont think every woman would think so, but he has more confidence than i dont know what, and thats what won me over, and has kept me here for 4 years. You go sis. Let em know!

1:12 AM  
Blogger brooklyn babe said...

Confidence with a sprinkle of cocky is ok with me... its when they bake they whole make with either cocky or unsure, that the whole damn cake is ruined

Wassup Resse, passing thru, showing some love, Peace!

12:36 PM  
Blogger princessdominique said...

Kudos on this post. I'm a girl so I've gotta agree.


1:47 PM  
Blogger Reese The Law Girl said...

Wow, I got a lot of new people reading due to Daashar...I mean Envizable's link. ;)

Thanx for stopping by everyone. Now, I gotta check out your blogs. Maybe I'll do it tomorrow during the hurricane. :)

5:52 PM  

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